When it comes to giving and receiving feedback, there are a few strategies that can be helpful.
One approach is the bullseye question, where you and your partner take turns asking each other, "What's one thing I did right today?" and "What's one thing I could have done better?" . The key is to respond to the feedback with a simple "thank you" and take time to reflect on the feedback .
Reframing feedback as an opportunity for personal development can also be helpful. Our partner's feedback is valuable because they see us in ways no one else does and they can offer constructive feedback from a place of care and understanding . By reframing feedback as a gift and an opportunity for growth, we can approach it with less defensiveness .
It's important to create a safe space for feedback and to establish regular times for giving and receiving feedback, such as daily check-ins or designated times during the week . This allows for open communication and reduces the likelihood of blindsiding our partners with unsolicited feedback .
Remember that feedback is not just about criticism, but also about highlighting the positive aspects of your relationship. Adding a question like "What's one thing I did right today?" can infuse positivity into the relationship and help balance out the constructive feedback .
Lastly, it's important to give feedback in a respectful and empathetic manner. Offering empathy and understanding before providing feedback can create a safe and open environment for communication . And when receiving feedback, give yourself some physical and mental space to process it before responding . You have the freedom to decide which parts of the feedback resonate with you and what you want to work on .
Remember that feedback is a valuable tool for personal growth and strengthening your relationship.